I love sex. LOVE IT. I can’t help but find it fascinating. There are few things on this planet that can compare to the physical sensation of an orgasm. I’ll even go as far as saying it’s the most magnificent PHYSICAL feeling that a human being can achieve. The quest for that sensation has advanced our species to the top of the food chain, started wars and sent many men to ruin.
What is it about “getting off” that people are so attracted to? What goes on behind the scenes when we’re getting our “jollies” with some random mud duck that we’ve picked up in a bar? How is it possible that genuine clear thinking becomes a cloudy mess of primitive humping and grunting? Let’s dig a little deeper and see just what makes up an orgasm. That soggy grey matter between your ears holds all of the answers.
The brain is the headquarters of all that sexual tension. Your brain has an area known as the pleasure center. It’s like the “gold star” board your elementary teacher used to put up for doing good things in class. Whenever you do something you enjoy, the pleasure system rewards your body in order to entice it to do it again. It’s the reason why you love to laugh, love to get off and even why many love to do drugs. Science shows us; when the neurons in the pleasure center fire, other areas of your brain are given specific tasks in order to maximize the pleasure sensation.
One of these areas in your brain is called the lateral orbitofrontal cortex. This section of the brain shuts down completely during orgasm. It’s considered the “seat of reason and behavioral control”. If you haven’t noticed already, the moment you have an orgasm, you lose control of damn near everything. This little part of the brain is the reason that “pulling and praying” doesn’t always work. Your biological “common sense” gets hit with the veto button.
It actually makes perfect sense if you think about it. If your basic biological function is to reproduce, nature is going to make sure that you stay “in the coochie” for as long as humanly possible. Some doctors have stated that the brain, during an orgasm, looks much like the brain of a person taking heroin. In fact the similarities are 95 percent identical; it almost makes you want to reconsider that “Just Say No” campaign. In fact, I now look at strung-out junkies in a different light… Just imagine if the male orgasm lasted as long as a heroine high, I’m sure I’d also breaking into houses stealing lawn furniture and toasters in an effort to pay for my next fix!
Another interesting factor introduces itself when analyzing “The Anatomy of An Orgasm”. Not all brain reactions are the same in men and woman. When woman are intimate, a part of their brain stem called the periaqueductal gray (PAG) is activated. The PAG control the “flight or fight” response. Women’s brains also showed decreased activity in the amygdala and hippocampus, which deal with fear and anxiety. Some doctors theorize that these differences existed because women have more of a need to feel safe and relaxed in order to enjoy sex. In addition, the area of the cortex associated with pain is activated in woman, which shows that there is a distinct connection between pain and pleasure.
Now lets analyze how sex effects our social interactions. Many people have attachment problems when they lose their virginity. When I lost mine, I was a pussy-whipped pile of goo. I look back on it now and crack up laughing at the absurdity of how sure I was that I was “in love”. We’ll there’s a reason some of us go through that.
The pituitary gland is the cause of a lot of mixed emotions and confusion. This little guy controls the amount of beta-endorphins that are released into your blood stream. Endorphins are you like your body’s personal drug dealer. They give you a sense of well being and also do a great job of blocking pain. The pituitary also releases another lovely cocktail of hormones called oxytocin and vasopressin. Combined they give the illusion of trust and the bonding sensation we all call love. If you’re a pimple faced teenager – that is already going through a hormonal assault – including this additional brew of potency will only make you that much more criminally insane.
Since woman seem to be in a never ending state of emotional puberty, it’s no wonder they associate casual sex and love in one lump sum. (I’m gonna really catch some hell for making that comment). But even I can’t sit here and deny that for a few sporadic moments just before I spasm, and a few fleeting seconds afterward, I feel a pure unfiltered connection with the woman I’m with. I’m sure if a man’s orgasms lasted as long as a woman’s we’d all be singing a different tune.
I’ll never admit to being able to understand a woman completely but after researching all of this I have a better appreciation of the mental and emotional side of a woman’s “O” face. To all my fellas out there, especially the ones that are giving out the emotional long stroke, be careful how good the loving is, because the harder she cums the more clouded she’ll get. You’re working with forces that have ensured our species’ dominant place on this planet for thousands of years. You’re not just fucking her, you’re fucking Mother Nature.
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